• Erik Condia

TTC + Miscarriage + Jealousy

Updated: Nov 6, 2018

This is so on my heart. ⁣ This is real. ⁣

The pain. ⁣ When I had a miscarriage...⁣ I swear to you...⁣ Swear. ⁣ ⁣ That everyone became pregnant and had positive pregnancy tests...the announcements, the gender reveal parties, and baby showers. ⁣ ⁣ Everywhere. ⁣ ⁣ Do you want to know why? ⁣ That’s where my focus was. ⁣ That’s where my heart was shattered. ⁣ ⁣ I prayed. ⁣ I prayed that I wouldn’t build up walls and become bitter. ⁣ ⁣ I still would cry— because it’s a trigger, but would still be so thankful, happy, and grateful. ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ Know this. ⁣ Please. ⁣ Know this. ⁣ Your pain is so significant. ⁣ So significant. ⁣ ⁣ You are allowed to feel the way you feel. ⁣ However, there is a space where you have to acknowledge that your pain is real and the journey of others is something they are allowed to feel too. ⁣ ⁣ Being bitter doesn’t feel good. ⁣ It just produces more anger and pain. ⁣ ⁣ I wouldn’t wish this pain upon anyone. ⁣ Someone else’s blessing isn’t meant to punish us. ⁣ ⁣ All you want is your pain acknowledged. ⁣ When others experience the blessing your heart desires— ⁣ ⁣ 1. Pray for your heart. ⁣ 2. Celebrate them (there can never be too much good— those blessings will help your prospective.) ⁣ 3. Connect to a community who UNDERSTANDS your pain and that encourages you not to dwell and stay stuck in it. This is KEY. ⁣ ⁣ Jealously is real. ⁣ Feel your feels. ⁣ But the way your heart will heal is through gratitude and joy. ⁣ ⁣ Your best friend doesn’t want to ruin your life by getting pregnant, sister. ⁣ ⁣ They shouldn’t stop their journey because of where you’re at with yours. ⁣ ⁣ I’m here for you. ⁣ I’m so here for you.


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